A Long Journey, with Much Pain, and No Guarantee of Arrival


I realized something today about all the things I want to change about myself: 

Every one well be painful and long.  None will be accomplished overnight. They will require me to hurt for a fairly long time. 

Muscles will ache. My mind will wrack  with ideas and extended effort, long after inspiration has passed. 

And not a single one of them comes with a guarantee of success. 

There are smarter ways to work, tactics to prevent injury and burnout, and tips to lighten the load, but there will be no more easy victories. Becoming vegan was the only one of those I’m likely to get. 

The sooner I accept this,  the sooner I can really get started. 

Heh. Does this mean I’m finally growing up? 


Willpower Wednesday: A Gritty Library

 

No, I don’t mean what happens when you leave the book depository door open during a sandstorm…

Angela Duckworth, PhD, Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance Dr. Duckworth is really the researcher who popularized grit with her TED talk. This is the “big one” from the researcher who really brought Grit to the forefront.

Carol Dweck, PhD, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. Dr. Dweck’s work is really foundational to grit, both in the sense that it is impossible to have grit without having a growth mindset, and in the sense that it’s almost impossible to understand grit without understanding the growth mindset.

Erik Weihenmayer and Paul Stoltz, PhD, Adversity Advantage. Weihenmayer was the first blind man to climb the highest mountains in the world. Dr. Stoltz is a business writer who’s studied perseverance and adversity.

Paul Stoltz, PhD, GRIT: The New Science of What it Takes to Persevere, Flourish, Succeed. Stoltz has a lot of credentials in his field, but I find his writing style difficult. He writes in what I call a “business buzzwords” style, turning grit into an acronym (Growth, Resilience, Intuition, Tenacity), and using phrases like Grok-Gauge-Grow and “Optimal Grit.” I’m certain there is good material in there (his work comes highly recommended by educators and academics that I trust), but as an academic and introvert by nature, I’m having trouble pushing through the sales pitch to find it.

I’m also looking into a few books about self-control:

Reg Dawson and Richard Guare, The Smart But Scattered Guide to Success. An expansion of their guide to helping ADD/ADHD students learn self-regulation, this book is aimed at adults with or without ADD/ADHD. I haven’t finished reading it, but so far it’s empathetic, intelligent, practical, and easy to grasp.

Dr. Kevin Leman, Have a New You by Friday. This is a pretty fluffy popular self-help book, but it wasn’t bad. It involves a lot of stuff about birth order and personality types that isn’t really empirically solid, but a lot of the advice is good anyway.

Most of us don’t have a passion so all-consuming it motivates us to practice constantly. Most of us need to push ourselves forward sometimes. That’s why the next two books are good.

Roy Baumeister and John Tierney, Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength

Kelly McGonigal, PhD, The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do to Get More of It.

Well, that ought to keep you busy for a little while. I’ll review/summarize some of these in later posts, but right now I’m still very much in the research phase.

Honestly, I probably shouldn’t be trying to write about grit and research it at the same time. But I’ve already started, so I’ll keep the posts like this, more a matter of passing along information and resources than proclaiming new insights or assessments.

Theory Thursday: The Power of Consistency

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds,” way back in 1841, but in 2016, I say “A lack of consistency is the blood-sucking leech of all our minds.”

You’ve probably guessed by now that this ties in with Grit. Dr. Duckworth’s book is full ofthe importance of consistency. Consistency is the key, but don’t take my word for it:

Comedian Louis C.K., in a July 6, 2011 interview with the A/V Club, said “I’ve learned from experience that if you work harder at it, and apply more energy and time to it, and more consistency, you get a better result. It comes from the work.”

John Wooden, legendary UCLA basketball coach, famously said, “Self-Control creates consistency. Consistency is crucial to getting to the top and staying there.”

Kevin Nash, the famous pro-wrestler, was once asked if he had any workout secrets or tips he could share with the readers. Rather than reply with his customary swaggering humor, he gave a one-word answer: “Consistency.” (I wish I could find the link to this interview, but it’s been 15 years or so since I watched wrestling. The answer stuck with me…Nash, by the way, is still working at age 56, albeit at a reduced pace. That’s consistency.).

Sean “Seanwes” McCabe explains in a video and article the importance of consistency: “Show Up Every Day for Two Years.” It’s his “secret” to building a platform and a following as an author and web personality.

Just google “importance of consistency”, and you’ll get several days of reading material. Or try “consistency in parenting” for even more googly goodness.

Consistency is everything, and it’s the hardest thing for some of us (myself especially) to practice.

Why is it so important? Partly because the only way to get better at something is to do it, over and over again, usually in the form of deliberate practice.

Deliberate practice means doing the hard work to improve skills, working on the weak spots rather than doing what’s most fun. It’s playing scales or replaying the three measures you never can get right, rather than breezing through the rest of the song. It’s the difference between rehearsal and just singing through a few songs.

I’ll write more about deliberate practice later, but it’s the hard work that makes you better at whatever it is you’re doing. You can get a little better by just playing through, but you’ll never really attain mastery without breaking it down and practicing hard.

And one day of practice isn’t enough. You need to do it every day. Maybe you can take weekends off like you do in your day job. Maybe you can take Christmas and Thanksgiving off. Maybe not. But you have to hit it like a real job, every day.

Health is the same way. If I eat vegan 2-3 random days a week, what good does that do for me or the environment or anyone?

I can tell you what good my sporadic attempts at exercise have done for me: nada. Zilch. Zip.

And if you’re trying to build a presence online, you need to put out content that someone out there finds encouraging, entertaining, informative, inspiring, or otherwise valuable, and you need to do it on a regular, reliable basis. Whenever you want won’t cut it.

Consistency is everything.

But consistency is HARD. Developing consistency requires commitment, courage, time management, energy, time, and a few other ingredients that I honestly don’t understand yet.

And in the course of my Grit studies, I’ll be looking for those ingredients. Because I need consistency, and so do my students.